June 3, 2009

Signs

So lately I have noticed this sign pretty much everywhere I go. In Dr.'s offices, pediatrician and otherwise, dentist's offices, midwife offices. Now, let me be clear, it is not the presence of the signs that disturbs me. It is the need for them: The other sign that I have have noticed almost as often:

Now, this is my concern. Are there really that many parents out there who DON'T watch their children? Yes, I have known a few moms in my time who seem to pay a little less attention to their children than I feel is necessary, but I also must admit to being slightly overprotective and even a bit overbearing at times. And the moms that I have noticed that fall into this category are few and far between.
So, is there really a need for this? I can only assume from the overwhelming presence of these signs that they are not there just to spruce up the office.
What do you think? Have you noticed that this is the case more often than I have?

17 comments:

~Thought's By Dena~ said...

I notice at times even when shopping at wal-mart kids just running around..I mean little kids...you look around and not a parent in sight! Who does this??? and WHY????

heather said...

Oh! Yes. Yes. Yes. I worked for a chiropractor and there were a handful of patients that would come in and we'd just cringe.

Their kids were so obnoxious! -And I'm a kid lover. My co-worker not so much, but these kids. AND I think the parents fall into three different categories.

ONE: Is the most common I think. The parent is 112% in love with their child, and is convinced that the rest of the world thinks their kid is as cute and wonderful as they do. One of our patients who fell into this category had a son, who was about six and he was cute BUT he'd find our toy camera book and then take pictures of EVERYONE waiting, and then he'd walk down the hall and go find the doctor and then he'd come behind our desk and then he'd start picking things up and asking questions and asking if he could do this or that or the other. It was really ANNOYING to us, but his mom just sat there the whole time smiling like he was just the cutest and sweetest thing ever.

TWO: The parents who are tired and have learned to just pick their battles. So when their little one gets (I'm NOT exaggerating) 12 different little paper cups and "drinks" she just sits there figuring they aren't hurting anything so just leave it alone. Until we actually had to cut the kid off, she didn't say one word. These same kids were allowed to wander all over the office with their crackers crumbling everywhere and getting mashed into our carpet, which she NEVER bothered to clean up before she left. URgH!

THREE: The people who just generally are laid back enough that unless the kid is bleeding or in immediate danger they are much more interested in their magazine or phone call or whatever.

We had lots of moms ask us to watch/ hold their babies while they had their treatment. Usually this wasn't a problem for us because our office wasn't usually THAT busy, but sometimes it did make answering a phone difficult -so I can understand why these signs pop up everywhere. I really can!

Linds said...

We go to A LOT of dr. appointments so I've had plenty of experiences being the mom with the sweet, well-mannered kids and the mom of the raving lunatic children. It kind of depends on the situation. If they have toys in the waiting room I let me kids go to town. They still need to share and use inside voices, but some moms seem to think that their kids have to whisper in waiting rooms. Since my kids don't understand the concept of whispering I let them play like they'd play at home. I don't allow them to trash the toys or get into things they shouldn't. Now, this is all assuming that the wait time is reasonable. If we've been waiting in a drs. office for more than an hour then I encourage my kids to unleash their full fury on that waiting room. It gets us seen much quicker!

pan x 8 said...

Yes it's true. I am more the Mom's voice you can always here because I'm constantly reminding the kids of their surroundings or their behaviors.

And don't you think it's funny when the "other" Moms who aren't watching "her own" kids are watching mine and telling them what?? What is that??

Kristina P. said...

Yes! I've worked inh a counseling center for the past 2 1/2 years, and the stories I could tell.

The Oesch Chronicles said...

Oh yeah.. I work at a Vet's office and alot of people come in and just ignore their kids and let them tear through our waiting room or run behind the counter with us to go through our rack with treats etc...I think people just think that it is no big deal. And that other people get paid to pick up so why not let them do it.. At least that is how it comes across to us in our office.. But we have one client that has AWESOME kids... They are by far the best behaved in the office.. Sometimes the dogs & cats act better than kids do!

Rochelle said...

We go to an unbelievable amount of doctors appointments, so I have seen my share of irresponsible parenting. I am that mom that wont let the kids get into anything, unless there are toys or books there for kids specifically. My kids are really well behaved(most of the time), but I think linds has a good idea about unleashing fury if the wait is too long......I might have to try that.

Heidi Ashworth said...

This is what I think, which is scary since I'm not thinking much at all lately: Moms are getting worse about watching their children. Also, receptionists are getting worse about watching other people's children. I mean, heck, clearly, that's part of their job, right? Right!

Erin said...

I am just like you - overprotective (but very loving). I have seen so many moms ignoring their children when they should not be ignored (2 year old attempting to cross the street alone, etc.) So sad.

Breeze said...

Oh my gosh, I don't think I've ever seen those signs in any of my visits yet!! But I do notice how some parents don't pay attention to their kids, and sometimes it isn't for lack of parent watching but that the child is just... well "uncontrollable" -- which to me just means that they should be left at home somewhere, with someone watching them.

I try to keep my kids under tabs, and make them clean up any messes that might be made, and I try to keep them quiet, and when I can I try to just leave them with a sitter and not even take them.

That's crazy that some offices actually hang those signs up.

Carolyn said...

Really? I guess I don't go to the doctor enough. Or maybe those signs are not in vogue here. People in the south are too polite to be that blatant about it. But they will cut you to ribbons behind your back.

(I still miss Utah.)

Momza said...

I am here to add my voice to the throngs in saying YES! those signs are needed b/c mommas "check out" and let their mongoose children run wild!!

Debbie said...

What I wish is that people would hand these signs out to those parents who are clearly not following the rules. I dont think I'm overbearing but I expect my children to behave (within reason for their age) and we talk about specific things we do/dont do in public. It's hard to expect my kids to obey when they see other kids getting away with so much.

Diamond in the Rough said...

Yes this is becoming more frequent. I work in a hair salon and I can tell stories as well. I get so annoyed with moms and dads that don't think it's their job to take care of their kids or that it's okay if their kid breaks your expensive equipment... it shouldn't be in their reach right? My favorite is my brother-in-law and his wife who have a little boy allergic to nuts and they remind everyone when family gatherings are approaching that they can't have anything with nuts in them and to check all the labels on the food because... "We don't want to have to watch him all the time around the food." Are you serious????

ABrunettesLife said...

Wow! At first I was offended at these signs thinking that they assumed me to be a bad parent. But now that I've read the comments, I completely agree that if there are THAT many parents who let their kids run free than there is definitely a need for them! Sheesh. I'm guilty of being one of those Mom's who think their kids need to whisper in doctors offices and won't bring out a cracker unless we've been waiting in the doctor's office for more than an hour. That comment about the mom who watched her kid look for the doctor and play with all the receptionists stuff just irks.

wendy said...

I think too many parents these days let their children run "amock" --so I guess that has made thos signs more necessary. I think MOST parents to a good job--and there is always that small % who screws things up for everyone. But I don't think signs need to be rude.

Sher said...

Wow. This is good to know. I really thought taking my kids out in public was like a break for me, because there's people like receptionists to watch them for me.
Lol.

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