August 11, 2009

Almost bloody Sunday

There are some days I really wish that sacrement meeting was broadcast to various classrooms throughout the church so that the entire ward didn't have to watch me wrestle my two sons all through out the meeting.

Wouldn't that make life so much easier on Sundays?

Out of curiosity, when you take your children out, and I'm talking toddlers, maybe ages 1-3, what is you philosophy? Do you just let them run around and work off their energy because they are too little to sit still? Or do you make it worse to be out of the chapel than in? (i.e. holding the child on your lap and not letting them run around).
Just wondering. . .

18 comments:

janae said...

With my barely 1 year old, I let him crawl around. He just seems too little to discipline. But I've actually been wondering lately if I'm causing myself more problems later. With my 2 and up year olds I take them to a dark class room, and we just sit on chairs in the dark with our arms folded. If they get off, I put them back. Over and over and over again until they realize that they're not getting any where. Thus far it seems to be making some headway with Elijah ...

Pam said...

I am going through this with our almost 2 year old right now. I make her sit in my lap out in the hall. She hates it! I do too! I do not know if there is a right or wrong answer to your question, all I know is for me after a few times of the child who has to be taken out, it usually cures them of not wanting to go out. With that said I have girls, and from what I hear have a different kind of energy than boys. Good luck! I would vote for your idea of having broadcasts. Does anyone know if there are any books that teach us how to help our kids be reverent, cause if there is I would pay big bucks for one. :)

Sell...Party Of 3 said...

With Van I always have made it worse to go out in the hall...like it's punishment. Obviously she is pretty well behaved now, and I don't worry about her behavior every week anymore.

Emily (Good Frau) said...

We only take Charlie out if it is absolutely necessary. If he is being a little noisy, we tell him he needs to be quiet and we try to occupy his mind with a quiet book or something. I know this is not a new idea, but I think it has helped him to learn to be still by not giving in and taking him out when he gets a little noisy. If he was screaming or something, I would take him out, but if he's not causing a disturbance (to anyone but me), we stay put. I hope we don't bother anyone around us (it's not usually an issue). But I'm usually in the back with all the young families, anyway.

wonder woman said...

One thing I've learned is that other people do not notice my kids as much as I think they do. Usually, they're wrestling with their own, worried if everyone's distracted by THEIR kids. You know what I mean?

I've done both methods with both boys. Let them run around when they're a little younger, then made it less fun when they're older. Just depends on the kid and the age, IMO.

What they REALLY need is a mother's lounge with options. A place for nursing moms with sleeping babies, and moms with older, rowdy kids. And you can pick whether you hear the chapel OR the RS room. I loved in our last building that we could kind of use the kitchen like that, at least during RS.

This, too, shall pass.

Mallory said...

Amen to wanting broadcasting to other rooms!!

When I take Bug out, I let him run around. Sometimes I hold him and walk the halls, telling him what all the paintings on the walls are. I just think that he is too little to understand that he needs to be reverent. (He still has 7 more years until he will be accountable for being irreverent!) I never expect him to sit still for three hours at a time at home. He will learn in time. Until then, we will wander the hallways.

Erin said...

I brought like three different kinds of snacks - cereal, fruit snacks, etc. Then I would start dishing them out one at a time, very slowly, and that always seemed to calm my kids down. Good luck!

Lourie said...

You should start a petition. I think there should be a room to go where Sacrament is broadcast. I have two girls (11 and 9) and a boy (3) and let me tell you that boy will not sit still! He likes cars. We bring cars to church--just hot wheels. A drink which he can't have til after the sacrament is passed. And paper to doodle on. As far as taking him out, if I do it, it's for time out purposes. No running. No Play. I have actually gone OUTSIDE of the building because he was screaming so loud. He does pretty good most of the time. But then he has to test me to make sure I am serious. Good luck.

Linds said...

I've tried variations on most of these ideas. It get's tricky when you're at church without a husband and you've got three kids, including a baby and a toddler. Try making your toddler sit on your lap when you're also feeding your baby a bottle!

Emmy said...

Kids under nursery age definitely just let wander and get out energry. As they are getting closer to primary age we try and make it more fun to be in the meeting.
We are definitely big advocates of snacks. Though then they tend to get spilled and then they fight over who wants which colored bowl of snacks, so I am with you, broadcasts!
When Lucas was little there was a year that it was the video broadcast stake conference.. we snuck into another room, set up a TV and had watched it in there. Then we just let Lucas run wild the whole time. For some reason some single adult aged sister came in the room and watched with us though, so I half felt like I needed to control him.. I was quite annoyed by her being there :)

Kristina P. said...

In the church I attended growing up, in California, they had a separate room, off to the side of the chapel, with a big window and a speaker, that parents could sit in with their kids. It was awesome.

Jodie said...

Wouldn't it be wonderful if they could broadcast sacrament to classes? With Sara, who is 1, we just let her run around, crawl up and down the stairs, or take her outside. Now for Cooper, who is 2 1/2, if he gets taken out then it is NOT fun at all. We try to bring lots of snacks and toys for the kids, but for the past 5 Sundays, one of us has ended up in the foyer with Sara. Can't wait until she sits still again!

Rochelle said...

At my brother-in-laws old ward they had a balcony type room with a big window so you could see the speaker and hear them, but you weren't actually in the chapel, but above it. You could see them but they couldn't see you type of thing. All the moms would sit in there with their rowdy kids, its was awesome. Unfortunately that is the only time I've ever seen that.

I force my kids to stay in the chapel (actually the gym cause our ward is huge and theres never room in the chapel). They tend to be more irreverent in the hall. I think that making them sit there, they learn to be quiet and reverent sooner. Everyone's kids are loud sometimes, but people don't notice or care as much as you think they do.

Debbie said...

I know so many people deal with it but I still don't like having everyone staring at me when I'm trying to discipline my kids into being good for an entire stinking hour, and be quiet at the same time, and sit still and not move to far since we only have a small bench. It gets tough to do over and over. I do love church, dont get me wrong, but it's hard. My 3 y/o daughters favorite thing is to roll around on the ground under the bench. We're working on it still.

Melissa Bastow said...

I've tried both - neither work... Come to think of it, I've been wrangling kids in the hall so much that I think I've gotten a meaningful spiritual message out of any church meeting at least 3 times in the last six years.

Melinda said...

Try pinching, that works for me.

;)

Momza said...

My rule of thumb...if they can talk they can sit. Whether on my lap or in a little chair by themselves in a quiet room or in the foyer.
If they can sit thru Sesame Street they can sit thru Sacrament. Do not let htem run willy-nilly thru the halls!

Diamond in the Rough said...

Our ward is a fairly young ward with tons of little kids. Most people don't notice if your kid is just being a kid; since all of theirs are too. But we do have a few who let their kids run up on the stand and then let their 5 y/o run after them to bring them back and they all laugh and smile and say "Aren't my kids so cute?" I really want to say NO. And they are screaming the whole time too. Then there are those kids who are screaming the entire meeting and their parents refuse to take them out. And those whose kids scream and they take them out and they are actually louder in the hall than in the chappel and you can hear them running up and down the halls. Kids will be kids and I think it's a tough call cause what works with one doesn't always work with another. My kids like the snacks and the coloring/drawing. My 2 y/o likes his hotwheels but we had to keep the police car at home because he'd wail like a siren all through the meeting. Good luck! It's tough getting kids to sit still.

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