August 26, 2009

Time for a Discussion in my inbox. . .

Okay, here's the thing. I am tired of seeing little girls wearing halter tops and daisy dukes. (Are they still called that?) I am tired of baby girls in bikini's. This morning I saw a little girl in a cami with a V neck half way down her chest. I don't like it.

Question is this: How do you feel about it? Is it okay to put little girls in spagetti straps? Or are you a fan of modesty from the get go?

Feel free to disagree. That's what the discussion is for!

21 comments:

Carolyn said...

Modesty from diapers up. I even make my 2-year old wear a little shrug over her sun dresses to church. I think it's easier to just never start then you don't have to break the habit for you buying or her wearing later on.

Kristina P. said...

I am a fan of modesty from the get go. Although, I do think that baby bikinis are pretty darn cute.

Chief said...

Oh please...I have big problems with this. I don't think they are called daisy dukes....they are probably called Jessica Simpsons or at least they should be.

I went shopping with my little sister and it seems the less material involved the more cash you have to dole out.

My boys wear uniforms to school and I am so grateful. No butts and boobs hanging

InkMom said...

I've just started pre-buying girl clothes for the little one I'm incubating and I'm stocking up on little white onesies with finished sleeves to put on under all those cute sleeveless shirts.

And two words: boy shorts. When they're little, at least. I say modesty from the start.

also known as shell said...

Although I'm not into buying bikinis for my little one I don't mind if she's wearing a tank dress without a shirt underneath. i don't buy dresses/shirts/shorts that are "immodest" but Kate does have one or two sleeveless dresses.

modest dressing wasn't always around in our church and wasn't even put into effect until around the 1950's. My grandma has a picture of her and her friends going to prom at BYU and they are all in speghatti strap, or strap less gowns. Not until pants came more into fashion and the hippy era started coming into play did modesty issues arise in our church. Then it became dress feminine and look appropriate... and then modified decade after decade to what it is today.

Modesty is important and I agree with it. but at the same time I don't make it like this crazy issue where I cringe inside if I see a little girl at church with a sleeveless dress.

Emmy said...

I agree modesty from the start, it really is easier. I have several sleeveless dresses for my daughter but I also have a cute little sweater thing that she wears over the dresses.

Debbie said...

For me, I would prefer to have my kids modest all the time. I remember my daughter had little tank tops (when she was one) but I'd put her in baby onesies underneath. Thats just what I felt comfortable with.

Melissa Bastow said...

I've already decided the rules here with modesty that I plan to continue through teenager-dom (girls, at least): No spaghetti straps. I'll allow some tanks as long as no boobs show out of any hole. No midriffs. Obvious. Not cleavage (the no boobs in any hole thing can go for any shirt.) And shorts have to be no shorter than a couple inches above the knee. Someone tried giving us some really short shorts when my first was 2 1/2-ish. I wouldn't let her wear them, and that someone called me a prude (not the first or last time.) However, I have become a teensy bit more lax about the babies. Because my last two have circulation issues, and so pants/shorts/whatever sometimes had to be ditched for just a plain onesie. (But I highly doubt anyone's offended by my one year old crawling around in just a onesie.) The way I figure, if I have the rules already set then there's never any arguments on where I stand no matter how old they are.

Lourie said...

Modesty! Modesty! Modesty! What does any girl young or grown need to be prancing around in a cami for??? Bikini's on little tots crack me up, but I worry they might lose the bottoms. My daughters thus far, dress very modestly and even ask me if they can wear something when they aren't sure. I don't know if it will always be this way, but I am grateful to know that at least for now, they have learned from the start. It's also how we as mothers dress.

Jodie said...

It has been hard for me to dress my 1 yr old modestly (not that she wears bikinis or anything like that). I think the reason I have such a problem is that I am a convert. She has several sun dresses and one spaghetti strap top that she wears. My goal is to start buying her clothes that are more modest. If I can get her in a routine while she is young, I am sure it will be easier when she is a teenager.

pan x 8 said...

I am a fan of modesty but I'm also the Mom who puts tank tops and short shorts and spaghetti strap dresses and tops and 2 piece bathing suits on my little girls. Mind you by the time they are in Primary, so Sunbeams, they no longer wear spaghetti straps to church and by the time they are Kindergarten no tank tops or short shorts unless we are around the pool area...

I guess I grew up where we played volleyball outside quite often and during we'd wear tank tops and shorts or while we were going to and from the beach...

I have a 17 month old who is wearing clothes that my 7-yr-old use to wear at her age. But my 7-yr-old is modest minded and has been since about 5. We switched over to one pieces once the girls turned 4 and they love them better than the 2 pieces. I know as they are growing they are as well as I am, tightening up on modesty because it's the right thing to do and not because they were told to.

I think everyone has their own way of teaching, don't you think?

Momza said...

It's easier when they're young to dress them modestly--it's when they're old enough to choose for themselves that you find out if they feel the same way.
But my daughters know I will not spend money on immodest clothing and will confiscate immodest clothing they may buy with their own money--right from the dryer! True story! But yea, the real challenge comes when they have their own money to spend-- and begs the question: did I teach them correct principles in the correct way?

MommyJ said...

My daughter is almost six, and she knows not to wear sleeveless stuff. No two piece swimsuits, no spaghetti straps... she as little shrugs and sweaters to wear over her sundresses too.

I figure, start early, teach them right, and hope it sticks when they are older.

Mallory said...

I plan on keeping my kids modest from the get go. That's is how we teach them other principles, too, right?

heather said...

My friend and I were JUST discussing this. :) Before our conversation I was all about putting a two year old in a bikini. I think it's cute. But she made some good points and now I'm undecided.

I don't really think its a big deal at age 2 or 3. I mean, I grew up in AZ and around the house I wore nothing but my underwears until I was 5.

But there is something to be said for creating habits early...

The Boob Nazi said...

My nieces wear tank tops, and I think it's fine. Bikinis, on the other hand, are kind of weird to me.

Sell...Party Of 3 said...

Van has never worn anything but modest apparel. I figure if I dressed her in it, and what point do I stop letting her wear it. AND when will she question me like you put me in the stuff, but I can't wear it now!?! I dunno. Just an opinion...

Van has a farmer's tan, and I am okay with it!

janae said...

I mostly stick with modesty - I never buy anything sleeveless or short - but when I've been given sleeveless dresses and can't get a onesie under or a cardigan over (and boy do I try!), I won't throw the dress away. I guess until she is 8 I don't plan on making a huge deal of things. After 8 I will probably care more.

I must say, I'm surprised that there are so many comments pro-modesty. In our high school of 3000 (in Utah) I only remember three girls other than myself that always wore shorts to their knees, shirts with sleeves, and dance dresses with sleeves. But you could probably correct me on that one! ;)

wonder woman said...

I probably won't do spaghetti straps and and bikinis for my girls (assuming I have them!), but I imagine they'll have some sleeveless summer dresses. I don't know. I'd like to think that by the time they're in Sunbeams, they won't be wearing sleeveless anymore, or at least have a cardigan over the dress.

I'm glad that long shorts are in style now, but I know they won't always be. That will not be fun.

Jenna Consolo said...

I'm with you. Modesty from the get-go! Toddlers look stupid in bikinis! (Not that many women can pull them off either, actually.)

Emma said...

oh come on lady's. I think you all need to take a chill pill it's just a cute little dress or a two piece swim suit, I put my girls in both, and I think they look great!!
I don't care if you feel more comfortable with putting little shirts on under things, I just say relax!!!

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