September 15, 2009

Tuesday Confessional

I hate, hate, hate it when random people ask me if I'm done having children.

If you are my good friend, and we are in a discussion about our family planning choices, and you ask me that, I will give you a good heartfelt answer.

But if you are a stranger off the street, striking up conversation and admiring my 4 children, don't ask me if my family is finished.

IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!

okay, glad i got that off my chest. . .

21 comments:

Chief said...

really, do people ask you that? I can't seem to believe that anyone would feel like it is ok to ask that.

I would have to come up with a snide comment to embarrass them...like "Im the octomom, don't you recognize me?

Emmy said...

I will always get, "so you have your boy and girl you are done right?".. unless it is my church friends, then I get asked the opposite.
Yes, I agree, quite annoying.

Kristina P. said...

People are so rude!

Debbie / Cranberry Fries said...

It baffles me sometimes what people think is ok.

~Thought's By Dena~ said...

I have yet to figure out what makes some people ask the stupidest questions and then expect you to answer them!!!!

That Girl said...

I don't think people stop asking that til your youngest is at least ten.

Sigh.

Linds said...

Hmmm...Maybe that's a Utah thing.

Rochelle said...

I get that question nearly everyday! I also get, "wow, you're busy" because of my existing children's ages. SO ANNOYING!!

Lourie said...

Seriously!? That is totally inappropriate! Another snide remark might be:

1. I'm trying for the Guiness Book of World records. I only have to have 20 more!

~~or~~
2. I'm NOT pregnant! But thanks for asking.

:P Hahaha.

Erin said...

The funny thing is, if you didn't live in Utah they would probably be saying, "Four kids?! Why in the world did you have four kids? I hope you are done."

Silly people.

wonder woman said...

FANTASTIC header and sidebar thingys!!

Seriously? people do that? The next time someone asks you that, smile politely and ask if they would sign their parents DNR.

Hopefully that would shut them up.

(I know that was really random, but I saw it on an episode of The King of Queens recently.)

p.s. word verification: LYING. no joke

Karen said...

When I announced my third pregnancy I had a cousin who asked if I'd ever heard of birth control.

Liesl said...

I tell people that I want 10 kids. That usually shuts them up because really, how do you respond to that? (I don't want 10 kids by the way but take my hat off to people who do.)

Sara said...

I actually don't mind that question so much. It depends on their tone. If their curious I don't mind, but some people don't really ask, it's more like a statement, "so your done having kid right?. The question that really really bugs me is when I'm pregnant and people asking if the pregnancy was planned. I'm just like,... really?

Renae said...

Very true about outside of Utah..more than 2 kids, people are surprised about. Like they can't imagine wanting to have a lot of kids..they don't even comprehend it. (unless the lots of kids are by several different dads, then it makes more sense to them somehow)Maybe that's just an AZ thing though!

Sell...Party Of 3 said...

I don't even like when people are friends with me. I am extremely sensitive about my children. What can I say.

Emma said...

Yup and pleas don't tell me I should try for a boy!!!!

Loralee and the gang... said...

Yeah, I hear Renae about the several dads thing. That's OK to have six kids by 4 different fathers? But my 7 with one is strange? What's wrong with this world?
People used to ask me if mine were all with just one man...really.
But there're ages do span 20 years, so sometimes I can hardly blame them.
:~D

Liz @ Sugarplum Creations said...

Lately I've been hearing a lot of "Wow, you have your hands full huh?" I'm a little perplexed by that. I have a 7 and 4 year old, and a baby. It's not like I have 7 under the age of 5 or something. Then my hands might be a little busy. Anyway, it's always confused me a bit as to why these personal choices are anyone's business. The girls and I just went to the beach with a friend and 3 of her 4 children. It was two moms and six kids. And EVERYWHERE we went people were staring. One woman was actually counting how many we had *out loud*. I thought that was so silly. We only had three each!

Liz @ Sugarplum Creations said...

Oh, and let me clarify, the kids were all really well-behaved. We were getting the stares because of our group size, not because we had screaming children or anything like that ;)

Stephanie said...

I totally agree with Sara. She said: "I actually don't mind that question so much. It depends on their tone..."

I don't mind if people ask the question genuinely and without an "agenda," but - unfortunately - that is rare.

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