October 21, 2009

Discussion Time

Here's the question. . .

Do you wear certain clothes or hairstyles because your husband/significant other likes them?

Or do you avoid certain colors or hairstyles because your husband/significant other hates them?

21 comments:

glitterbygrammie said...

Being married for 20 some odd years, my signifcant other pretty much likes whatever I wear.We ahve learned over the years to compromise. He likes everything I do and wear and he has a peaceful existance. Otherwise the remote to the TV come up missing. oh no honey I didn't do anything with it. Do you like my new hair do? Well we can all see where this is going.
Really though we have learned over the years to blend the things we like so there is no friction. But to answer your question. At first yes I did do that to make him happy. It made me feel good when he would give me a compliment.

Emmy said...

I don't think I avoid anything because of what he likes. But I do find myself wearing the things that he or really anyone else compliments more often. I have this one shirt that every time I wear it someone seems to compliment it, so of course I love that shirt and wear it a lot.

Liz @ Sugarplum Creations said...

If I know there is something that my husband doesn't like, I definitely stay away from it, and of course I try to wear what I know he does like. But sometimes it just doesn't work. He would LOVE for me to cut my hair short, and what the poor guy doesn't realize is that my hair just won't do what he'd like it to do ;)

Linds said...

The only preference my husband has ever really shown in what I wear is, well, the lack of clothing. Perhaps something that's easy to slip off. Sorry, TMI! He did freak out when I colored my hair darker though so I keep it light.

wonder woman said...

I grew my hair out because Superman likes it long. Now I love it long, too. It's easier than short for me. He's also a fan of my hair being blonde, which I've had to work at maintaining since having children and getting red in my hair.

Kristina P. said...

I don't think my husband cares. He's never stated any specific preferences.

He knows I don't like his hair too short. He just got his hair cut yesterday, and he looks like he's going into the military.

Emily is a good frau said...

My husband likes my hair long. But so do I, so that works. It's funny, though, because when he met and married me I had really short hair.

Chief said...

no! I do not, mostly because he doesn't comment very often because he is afraid. The only time I stopped wearing something was he told me I looked like MIMI from that one sitcom...can't remember now but it wasn't good!

Melissa Bastow said...

Nope.

And sometimes I'll wear or avoid something just because I know he'd want the opposite. Because I'm really thoughtful and caring like that.

Liesl said...

My husband likes long hair and actually I do too, but with three kids it was just too much. His only request is that I don't cut it way short, like above the chin. Sometimes I want to but I know he wouldn't like it and personally I like my husband to think I'm attractive.

I don't care about the clothes so much. I like it when he likes what I'm wearing but he has wanted to burn some of my favorite comfy clothes and I draw the line there. I can change my clothes. Harder to grow the hair.

janae said...

If my husband EVER dictated ANY rule or even PREFERENCE about my hair (length, color, style, etc.) I would smack him. We have two unwritten rules:

1) I am allowed to do whatever I want whenever I want with my hair.

2) He must always find me attractive. (Because if he doesn't, just wait until I'm 90 with thin, gray, straw hair. It's only gonna get worse. Might as well be the optimist.)

Plus, I would hope that my husband doesn't have ANY requirements for beauty. He should love me for who I am as a person. I'll try to look my best (and I do). But if I gain 50 pounds carrying HIS child and can't quite lose it ... or if I don't shower for four days and look like a scrounge because I was busy tending HIS children ... or if I go to a bad stylist and have my hair butchered because I'm trying to save money from HIS salary ... well then he darn well better kiss my feet and tell me I'm the most lovely woman on earth.

Not that I feel strongly about this or anything ...

:)

InkMom said...

Two things: when my husband and I were dating, my first encounter with his father was over the phone. I can't remember the exact conversation, but somehow it came out that I had short hair. He said he really preferred long hair on a woman, and I told him that since it was my hair and not his, I'd be styling it whichever way I wanted, thank you very much. It was the beginning of a long and beautiful friendship. (Can you sense the sarcasm in that statement? Please say yes.)

Second: My husband finds me most attractive when I feel good in my own skin. This means if I feel like I have cute hair, and I like my outfit, I act like I feel good about myself, too, and this makes me attractive to him. Were he to tell me about something he disliked, it would have exactly the opposite effect -- I would be utterly deflated and no longer feel like the confident, happy woman I am 99% of the time. That said, I truly appreciate honest evaluations of, say, which shoes to wear, or if he likes something one way better than another one, and he is supremely diplomatic and somehow honest at the same time when I ask him for his opinion. It's a great combination. And no, I have no idea how he ended up the son of a man who tells a woman he's never seen in person that he doesn't like her hair. It's a mystery to me, too.

wendy said...

I would tend to wear what I know looks good on me---with or without hubby's approval.
BUT sinces I am just newly married he thinks everything I do/wear looks wonderful. Ah, the whole Love is Blind thing.
In fact, he asks me often "why do I bother with makeup here in the country".
WHY, WHY you ask-------------I couldn't possibly show myself before a cow or horse without my makeup!!!!!!!!!!!

Heidi Ashworth said...

I wish I had written what Glitterbygrammie said--her answer rocks.

Debbie / Cranberry Fries said...

Yup. My hubby isn't a fan of red shirts. He thinks it's an old women color. Funny thing is I bet 90% of women have something red in their closet! For a long time I didn't own anything red but this past year I got a red shirt and it's very flattering (he's even told me so). However I have a red blazer...uhm I'll probably DI it soon. It's so old lady-ish.

Now with that said, my hubby has always been very sweet and kind about my hair, my clothes, my body, so we've never had any issues there. But he does have opinions and I have mine. Frankly I'd rather get his input than just be told I'm perfect no matter what I do, because really there are things that are more flattering on me than others and I'd like to hear it from him.

Lourie said...

I just recently bought three new shirts for me. One in particular that he likes a lot. I do too. It slims me. Bonus.

Barbaloot said...

Being as I have no significant other---I'm not a good candidate to ask:) But I'm pretty sure if I hate the style---I wouldn't do it even if he loved it.

The Boob Nazi said...

I don't really know, but I'm still putting in my two cents.
I would never buy something on purpose because a SO liked it if I didn't like it. But if I already owned something a SO liked, I'd wear it more often to make him happy.

Diamond in the Rough said...

The only thing my hubby says is as long as you don't look like a boy or a man then we're good. He has a sil that looks like a boy so that is the rule... and like I want to look like a boy :)!!

Lara said...

Nope.

If my husband loves me for me, he will love whichever hair or clothing I choose. Although, sometimes I ask for his opinion, because I myself am not sure if I like it. But when I know I like it? I don't care much if he does.

Sell...Party Of 3 said...

Should I openly admit that I do whatever makes me happy. LOL. When I bought my orange glasses, my husband said that they had to give me a deal to wear them. I wear them A. LOT. and he still loves me.

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