February 10, 2010

A Simple Ring

My husband and I are both pretty sensible people. When we were ring shopping, we had a pretty tight budget.  And we stuck to it.  The ring we bought is less than half a carat.  It's not gaudy, it's not huge, but it's just right.  It is sturdy, nice to look at and in the right light, just sparkly enough to take your breath away.

For a long time, this little ring was the most valuable item in our possession.   Every once in a while, I will notice someone else's wedding ring. How large it is.  How beautiful, or original, or well, huge.  And for a minute, I'm a little big jealous. I regret just a little bit that we didn't go into debt for my ring. But, then I look at my hand and see the ring that has been there for almost nine years now.   The ring that fits so well, I forget that it's there. The ring that has never once (thanks to an expert salesman) even come close to falling off.

One day, not too long ago, I realized how appropriate this ring is for our marriage.  We aren't a gaudy couple.  We live small, but meaningful, lives.  And we are sturdy.  While there are moments that I want to smack him and he wants to put his fist through a wall, we have never once, (thanks to faith and prayer) even come close to falling apart.  And our love, well, in the right light, it's just sparkly enough to take your breath away.

21 comments:

Together We Save said...

That is wonderful!! You should feel very blessed.

Kristina P. said...

I can completely empathize. My ring is rather small, and cost about $300. But we didn't go in debt to pay for it, and while I sometimes get jealous when I see my friend's beautiful rings, I love my ring, and it means a lot to me.

Maybe someday, I will upgrade, but right now, it's not important.

Erin said...

Yep, my ring only cost $300 also. It is just a band. But it is beautiful, and I love it.

Melissa Bastow said...

You're so nice - I'm constantly begging my husband for a bigger, shinier ring.

Ok, just kidding, I don't even wear the one I have. I'm an evil wife. Also my fingers grew more with each pregnancy (I inherited my grandpa's short stubby fingers anyway) and now my ring doesn't fit. And I'm convinced that if I can just lose like 500 pounds I'll be able to get it on again. (Don't crush my dreams - it WILL fit.)

Sell...Party Of 4 said...

said perfectly.

Lourie said...

I have seen many LARGE rocks over the years. But the rock doesn't make the marriage. The couple make their own marriage strong. And seems as though you and your hubby have done that.

Liz @ Sugarplum Creations said...

Ohhhhh, I got a chill, and a little tear. This is so sweet.

MommyJ said...

What a sweet comparison. :)

Wonder Woman said...

So sweet. And I love that you saw extra meaning in it. I feel the same way about my ring. Every now and then I want an upgrade, but this is just fine for now.

A stray thought -- my diamond even has a few visible flaws. But that's also like a (my) marriage.

Momza said...

The size of the bling
don't mean a thing.
true story.

Emmy said...

Beautifully written!

Rochelle said...

aww that is so sweet. I can't imagine getting an upgrade on my ring. This one has all the memories and its all I need.

Kellee Paschall said...

Rachel, you are such a wonderful writer. I Love reading everything you have to say !
I have a Fairly simple heart shaped ring with nice sized diamonds but I don't wear it anymore....No, this isn't a sad story ! My husband and I have been married almost 14 years and he has worked in a metal free workplace for 12 and I am an artist so..... we now have them tattooed on. To me it is more special than my original because they were designed by my husband, match and they are Forever. I Love my Husband so Much : )

Diamond in the Rough said...

I love reading all of your posts... but this one is my favorite. Great analogy and super sweet too:)!

Emma said...

Very well said!!!

Camryn said...

What a beautiful way of looking at life!

Lara said...

My husband wanted me to have whatever ring I wanted, but I forbade him to go into debt over it. I knew school alone was enough debt for us.

Turns out my grandmother sent me her wedding ring, and it was pretty darn close to what I would have picked out anyway. I love it. And it cost us nothing. He bought two simple wedding bands to go above and under it, and they were extremely inexpensive.

I notice beautiful large rings all the time, but I still love mine best. :)

Debbie / Cranberry Fries said...

I am glad my ring has good memories instead of thinking "oh it took us years to pay that thing off". I love your post. So sweet.

The Garden of Egan said...

I read your commentary on MMB and came over to your blog.
I loved your thoughts on your sleeping baby.
They are gone so fast.
Thanks so sharing.
I love your ring story, I have seen my kids go into debt when they got married to get these monstrous things....and both wives ended up losing theirs!

Love your blog.

also known as shell said...

i think my ring cost around $300 its just white gold band with a cz in it.

Chad asks me all the time if I wan to put a diamond in it and i'm like nope I would rather have new furniture or a vacation. no one can tell its a cz anyway unless I tell them.

Stephanie said...

How sweet! I love this :)

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