April 28, 2010

Let's have a discussion!

Do you ever do stuff?

Aren't you excited for this complex and well thought out discussion?

Okay, let me see if I can get my point across.

Pretend you worked really hard on something.  Doesn't really matter what it is. Any thing from dinner, to a church party to a wedding cake.  You spent hours and hours on this particular project.  And it's something that you are doing out of the goodness of your heart.

The thing happens (or is eaten), it's over.  And no one said thank you.

Should you:

A: Yell to the rooftops that you deserve some recognition for this project you gave your heart and soul to. (Or maybe just your time.)
B: Take it with grace and figure that the Lord knows what you have done and will reward you in heaven.
C: Don't tell anyone, but feel all resentful and annoyed.

So, what would you do?

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20 comments:

just call me jo said...

What I WOULD do and what I SHOULD do?? I would do A and C,most likely A because I'm not good at keepting my mouth shut. But I know we should do B. It's a no-brainer that my brain knows but my temper doesn't get.

amy said...

i know that i should realize that the Lord knows what I done and I'll receive a pat on the back at some point. instead i typically keep quite and feel sorry for myself, annoyed and put out. then once the tension builds then i have a melt down and request the gratitude.

Momza said...

My best advice is to be patient. The nod of gratitude you're waiting/hoping for, is probably on its way...
if it is a service you did for a community or
a service you provided for your family--
good deeds do not often go unnoticed.
Just be patient.

heather said...

I don't know. For me, when I was teaching, it was this every day. Hard work & a TON of sacrifice on my part not only to not be thanked, but to be criticized, yelled at, and just generally disrespected by students and their parents.

I also imagine that all the hard work & sacrifice without the thanks are part of the calling of motherhood.

Personally I like to feel appreciated. If I spent the whole day getting the house cleaned, etc. And Hubby doesn't comment on his own -I'll point it out to him. :)

Pearl said...

Geez, sounds like my life everyday! For me, it's totally B and C. I hope the Lord sees my sacrifice and hard work, but I also feel like I deserve a little recognition, just a simple "thanks" would suffice.

Barbaloot said...

Well, I'd feel like doing A, but really do something more like C and feel guilty that I didn't follow B.

Wonder Woman said...

I WOULD do C. Or complain to my husband, assuming he's not the one who should be thanking me. I of course SHOULD do B.

Kristina P. said...

I am a passive-aggressive to the hilt when it comes to stuff like this. I would totally give my husband the silent treatment until he asked me what was wrong.

It's actually something I've worked on and gotten better with.

Linds said...

I once totally did A and then my husband sweetly reminded me that he HAD thanked me. I then recalled his earlier thanks and my righteous indignation turned to sheepish humiliation. I've since learned to enjoy the service and not expect any recognition. That makes any gratitude you receive even sweeter. Though if my kids complain about a meal I have slaved over then the claws come out.

Liz @ Sugarplum Creations said...

Well, I KNOW I should do B, but mostly I'm a C girl. I sulk a bit and feel sorry for myself, I may complain a little to my mom, and then I get over it. Usually if I'm doing something, I try to go all out and put a lot of effort into it, and that makes it hard to not at least hear a "thank you". I'm getting better about not expecting a thanks, though. That way, if I do receive a little recognition, I'm pleasantly surprised :)

Jo said...

I would do C, but I'll say B, just to make me look better!

Amber said...

This is a great question. I usually end up feeling resentful and annoyed! Horrible, I know, but still, there you have it. : )

Mrs. Organic said...

This is a tough one - what I would feel like doing is mentioning it to someone. THank yous are awesome, but what I would probably do is eat chocolate in my closet.

Lourie said...

I am somewhere between B and C. Hahha. When this does happen to me--and it does--I pat myself on the back and tell me what a good job I did. It's not quite the same, but at least I know I got some praise.

Serene is my name, not my life! said...

Honestly, it would all depend on my mood. Because I'm fickle like that.
But you should tell all of us what you did that you didn't receive thanks for! I wanna know now!

Omgirl said...

I usually just bitch about it to someone who is good at listening to me bitch, nice and sympathetic and uninterested in being non-biased, and then I feel better. If it's a long-term thing, like a calling, where the lack of thanks might come into play again, I may consider taking more drastic measures. But if it was a one-time thing, I try to remember how my labors just added a hot tub to my mansion in heaven, and leave it at that.

Loralee and the gang... said...

For me it's usually C, but sometimes A. Looks like I have some work to do in changing my attitude!

Emmy said...

I would try and do B.. but probably would really be doing C :)

We do need to be recognized.

Sell...Party Of 4 said...

is this a trick question! LOL.

I would totally pick C.

judge me.

Charlotte said...

Honestly, I have family members who put in way too much time and effort for things that people only expect a little time or effort and then are upset when people don't recognize the effort. (For instance take 48 full hours designing signs for tables when all that is wanted or needed is 5 minutes of time).

So I have learned from them to be satisfied with the effort I give and to not go overboard when it isn't needed or wanted. I don't even really notice if I don't get thanks for things, although I do appreciate it when I do get it and I always try to thank people for their effort (knowing how much it means to people more like the previously mentioned family members).

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