February 2, 2011

What would you do?

*You and your friend are at a restaurant with your children.  It is between lunch and dinner.  You and your friend both have a 3 year old and a baby.  The entire restaurant is empty, save for one table on other side of the room.  So, you're being a little lax about keeping you child in her seat and keeping her quiet.

At one point she ventures a little further than you would like, within about 10 feet of the other occupied table.  You walk over to pick her up and apologize to the people sitting there for the disruption.  The man sitting at the table turns:

Him: "You shouldn't be allowed to have children."

You: "Excuse me?"

Him: "You are the worst mother that I have ever seen. You should never have been allowed to have children."

You: "That is a horrible thing to say to anyone"

What would you do?

*This did not happen to me, but it did ACTUALLY happen.



just call me jo said...

That happened to my daughter too with her twin boys when they were 3 years old. I don't know what anyone should do. I think you did the right thing. He's a mean, bitter, unpleasant person and I there's just no retort that will "fix" or satisfy someone like that. He obviously never had children or grandchildren. His loss.

Kristen said...

Holy cow, I have no idea what I would have said back to him!

I think people like that never had children, because if you did then you remember how it was.

My kids ALWAYS wander around in restaurants. I figure, hey, I'll never see most of the people again anyway, right?? It's impossible to keep a toddler seated for an hour.

MommyJ said...

It makes me sad when people judge and criticize in such a way. Even if someone's children were being one hundred percent unruly and totally out of control, it's still an unkind unnecessary thing to say. The poor guy must have been having a bad day, or must have been through something to speak so poorly.

If it were me, I would move on, knowing full well what a good mother I am. I certainly don't need strangers to validate it for me.

Kristina P. said...

Kick him in the testicles so HE can't have children?

heather said...


I think I'd say something like: Sorry you feel that way, or maybe "Oh. Really? You can make that conclusion based on about 5 minutes observation? That's awesome." Or maybe, "Well, apparently God thought differently, because he gave them to me."

Actually, I'd probably not say anything & then spend an entire night thinking of all of the things I SHOULD have said.

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Melinda said...

Oh thats horrible. I don't know what I would do, I would probably say something lame. Or I would go back to the table and tell my friend and then we could come up with something and then go back over and say something like "You know, that truly hurt me. Whether you think I should be a mom or not, I AM one and I can't change that now. Would you like to adopt my children, since you so seem to be such an expert on child rearing?" Either that or I'd like to call him a bad word. :) Really, that story hurts my heart. :(

Rochelle Brunson said...

hmmm....I can't imagine that I'd be nice after that. I'd probably throw out death threats and swear words.

Barbaloot said...

I'd probly throat punch him and respond that he shouldn't be allowed to speak.

Just SO said...

I'd like to believe that I would have the wits about me to say something like "Well you shouldn't be allowed to have a tongue." but I'd probably just be so mad I wouldn't say anything and walk away.

alison said...

ummm...call chuck norris and give him that guys exact coordinates so he could judo chop the rude outta him. aside from that...i'd probably just stand there completely unable to even process what that person just said to me.

Charlotte said...

I would probably feel bad for how sad and pathetic he must be. Seriously, who does that?

There is no use arguing with a lunatic, though, better to just move on and roll your eyes.

Liesl said...

Laugh. Laugh hysterically and then say "I'd like to call your mother and say the same."

That Girl said...

Honestly, I'd laugh. Nervously. While blushing. But I'd laugh and say some off-the-cuff-comment like, "um, actually I'm a very good mother."

Then I'd cry.

Stephanie said...

Oh, that is terrible! (I think I might cry...after leaving the restaurant).

P.S. I LOVE Liesl's response. SO much.


Emmy said...

Holy Cow! My mouth literally dropped when I read this! I don't know what I would have done. Wow. What a jerk

Sell...Party Of 4 said...

I agree with Kristina...

BUT I probalby would have been completely speechless and not known how to even respond.

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