March 20, 2012

I need some advice.

So, we're thinking about revamping our whole chore/reward system.  This time to include money in some shape or form.  But this is where my dilemma comes in. I am totally against just handing out money to my kids. They have to earn it.  Because very rarely in life does someone just hand you a twenty for no reason whatsoever.  But also, I don't want to pay them for everything.  They need some responsibilities that they have to do just to contribute to this family.  But honestly, I can't figure out where that line is.

What do you do with your kids?  Mine are 9 down to 3.  How do you differentiate by age?  I need some advice.


Barbaloot said...

We always got a monthly allowance---but it came with knowing it was a result of helping out around the house and doing our chores. Not only that, but when we got it (this is one of my earliest memories) my parents would help us figure out how to put 10% in tithing (that 50 cents goes a long way:), 50% in savings, and then the other 40% in spending. Also, if we did things like write in our journal every day or get good grades, our allowance was increased.

Hope that helps-

Melinda said...

You could try this:

Its a free website where you choose which chores they will do, everything from taking a shower to practicing piano, to cleaning the bathroom, you choose what works for the age. THEN you choose what their rewards will be, they get so many points for each chore and when they get to a certain point they can choose how they want to spend their points, one of the rewards can be money if you want it to be.

We really like it, in fact, my kids LOVE it. And its easy to use with little kids and with older kids, my friend uses it on her tweens.

Anyway, hope that helps! :)

The Woolley's said...

I liked the ideas and thoughts in this article.

SpencernAmy said...

I can't count how many times we've rearranged our chores. One thing I feel strongly about is that chores are part of being a family, so I don't want my kids to think they are being paid to do what is expected of them. We reward them with "allowance" when they complete their chores ahead of schedule. We interpreted that to mean--if their chores are done before mom and dad get out of bed Saturday morning, then they get allowance. This accomplishes a couple of things: 1. they do their chores without me having to remind them, 2. They are often done by Saturday and we can do something fun as a family, 3. They don't wake us up super early in the morning. : ) Obviously, some of my kids care more than others about money but at least half of the chores get done quickly....

Liesl Shurtliff said...

We pay our kids a weekly allowance equal to their age, but half of it goes into a saving account. They can only collect the allowance after doing their Saturday chores.

We also have a rewards system we call "The Caught Being Good" chart. We have a chart with 100 boxes and we mark it off when we "catch" them doing something good (like helping a sibling or cleaning up without being asked.) Once we reach a hundred we take the kids on a special outing, like a movie or a waterpark or something. They love it! And we noticed a huge difference in their behavior with all the positive reinforcement. It also helps us parents to focus on the good things instead of constantly harping on bad behavior.

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